Unlike
my mother, my father was someone I seldom had occasion to look up to or admire. In his thirties he was hard working and
somewhat industrious, even ambitious. He
did not seem to have a good feel for how society works or how to dedicate
oneself to a task and was not particularly helpful in preparing me to interface
with the world. I know he was proud of
my architectural accomplishments and my acceptance to USC.
In
hindsight my father was helpful and definitely gave me some good, blue collar
advice. For this I am thankful. And many of his negative qualities have also
been helpful – in a reverse barometer kind of way: I’ve never been much of a drinker (especially
beer), I resent oversimplified categorization of people and issues, and I am a
believer in not expecting things to come easily. No excuses, but my father did
have a difficult start in life. Here is
his biography:
A
Biography of Obie G. Bowman by his son – June 2008
My
dad was born in Cincinnati, Ohio on June 2, 1913. His father was a drinker and the only thing
I recall hearing about his mother was my dad’s recollection of her working
scrubbing floors of tenement houses.
When his parents divorced his father took my dad and his mother took his
older sister Bernice. Dad soon left to
live with his older cousin Miriam Gideon (in Cleveland, I believe). Miriam kept in contact with Dad, Mom, and me
until her death in the early 1960s. Dad
ran away from Ohio after finishing the 8th grade and bummed around the country
for a few years with some hobo acquaintance.
They hopped a lot of trains and I believe spent some time in the
south. He hated his father, resented his
mother for not taking him, and never spoke or wrote to either of them ever
again. Somehow, he ended up at a dance
at the Santa Monica Pier where he met my mother.
They
were married on May 8, 1941. Tom Sprague
got dad a job at a furniture factory where dad accidentally cut off the tip of
his middle finger. He was soon drafted
and ended up in the Navy. Mom and I visited
him in Minneapolis where he was undergoing electrical training – he became an
apprentice electrician on a destroyer escort in the Pacific. I believe he met his friend Clayton in the
Navy. The closest he came to battle was
near the Battle of the Coral Sea. They
were holding 20 or so miles away from the battle in reserve and dad said they
could see the sky light up during the night as the shells exploded.
After
the war we lived in small, military housing on a barren hillside in San
Pedro. I recall walks to a small pond
and going down to the breakwater to meet Dad who would go down early to fish.
At some point we moved to a little house behind June’s in West Los
Angeles. Also, at some point dad worked
as a mailman with his Navy buddy, Clayton.
Soon he passed the exam to start as an apprentice with the LA Department
of Water and Power and worked out of a station near the Veterans’ Home in West
LA. Dad made some efforts to better
himself, reading general books of knowledge, doing little projects out of
Popular Mechanics magazine, drawing cartoons, making little wire baskets...
none of which ever amounted to much.
He
always brought home comic books and because I was often in the tub (I’m 5 or 6
at this point) one night he came home and said he had seen some rubber comic
books you could read in the tub. I was
sorely disappointed when he told me he was only kidding. In later years he brought home the first
issue of Mad magazine – he seemed fascinated with Alfred E. Newman’s face and
the phrase “What, Me worry?” Another
night he brought home a gopher and I was beside myself with excitement. We kept it a day or two and then he insisted
we let it go. We built several model ships and planes. My favorite was a wood model of a Black Widow
Night Fighter. Another night he brought home a black Cocker Spaniel, “Skipper”,
my first dog. Dad built him a dog
house. He also built a big swing and a
pull-up bar. Dad was always quite skinny
but did work out on the pull-up bar and with a punching bag. He liked boxing and listening on the radio to
a heavyweight championship fight was really a big deal in our house.
When
we moved to Reseda in 1950 dad transferred to the Water and Power station in
Canoga Park. There was a lot of work to
be done on our tract house lot and Dad installed a front yard sprinkler system
and built a decorative planter that looked like a well, clothes lines, a work
bench (I have it in my garage now), a dog house, and a chicken cage. We also had a vegetable garden. My parents had a colored concrete patio
poured and were told to keep it moist with wet blankets, which they did, but
when they removed the blankets the color was terribly mottled. It was pretty gross. Rocks for the well came from a place on the
west side of “The Ridge Route” south of Gorman.
We would collect them and fill up the trunk of our 1949 Plymouth. Dad also sheared off flagstone from this same
area. Grandma gave mom her old player
piano (the one we have) and dad spent months rebuilding it – we used to play it
all the time, although it has since fallen into disrepair. Dad went to union meetings fairly regularly
and I believe usually voted as the union recommended. Both he and Mom were
Democrats. Sometimes he would go see the
fights (boxing) in downtown LA and sometimes I would go along. Dad set up a
pair of horseshoe pits in the backyard and was an OK player.
Dad
took tests to improve his position/pay at work but was unsuccessful. He did a little local fishing and hunting,
smoked cigars, and drank lots of beer.
He was fairly prejudiced (against just about anybody/anything) and was
almost always critical of the church, the neighbors, etc.
My
dad was quite strict and I did not feel good about him for many of my teenage
years. On the other hand, there was
truth to many of his concerns and his strictness probably did help me stay out
of trouble. In reality, I did many
mischievous deeds but was smart enough to usually avoid getting caught.
In
the early 1960s his sister Bernice got in touch with him, having contacted him
through Navy records and she and one of her daughters, Becky, came out for a
visit. After he retired (I believe at
60) he began drinking beer a lot more and eventually was probably an
unconfirmed alcoholic. He also then
watched a lot of TV. Of course, it was
difficult after Mom was hospitalized.
Dad visited her regularly, but he suffered a stroke in 1990. We arranged live-in care for him which turned
out to be a disaster (items went missing from the house and long distance bills
mounted which were never repaid) and eventually he was in a convalescent home
in Tarzana. He was later moved to
another place where he died on August 22, 1992.
He was buried next to my mother at Chatsworth Cemetery. One of his friends from work (Stace or
Studerman?) showed up at the burial and we shared a few memories about Dad.